How to Date a Single Dad

You have met a great guy. He is smart, charming, good looking, and--a single dad. This does not mean that dating isn't an option, but it does mean that dating may involve a little bit more thought and planning than in other scenarios. Whether he is a divorced dad or a never-been-married dad, you will need to remember that any serious relationship you enter into will involve his kid(s) also.

Instructions

Step 1. Let him talk. Allowing him to chat about his kids and his life will give you a lot of information about the scenario you are walking into. A single dad who talks about his kids and is involved in their life is a good sign.

Step 2. Ask questions as they come to you. You want to know what he is like as a dad, what his kids are like, how he relates to his ex and what the custody arrangements are.

Step 3. Realize that you will meet the kids when he is ready and when you are ready. Nothing good can come of meeting the kids before you and he have agreed that the two of you are getting serious.

Step 4. Show courtesy to the mom, if she is involved. This woman is not your competition, but she is a constant and equal part in the children's lives. Even if the divorced mom and dad do not get along, it is not your place to be involved.

Step 5. Include the children in activities when it is his turn to have them and do not make plans that exclude the kid(s) on these nights or weekends.

Step 6. Make romantic plans for you and your single dad when the kids are with their mom, after all you are dating him and you should have fun together.


Source: eHow Parenting Editor (eHow)

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Single Dad Dating: Making It Easier For You

Being a single dad is hard enough, but consider what it can do to one’s dating life! There are many reasons for being a single dad in today’s society—our very high divorce rate being just one! But just because someone has children it doesn’t mean that they can’t get out and date! A person craves for love no matter what their circumstances, whether it be bereavement that they have finally been able to move on from, divorce, separation and even just out of sheer loneliness. No matter what the reason trying to re-establish yourself into a new relationship; being a single dad dating doesn’t have to be impossible! With a little crafty thinking you can easily find women who will happily date you whether you’re raising your kids alone or not.

Once as single dad you decide it is time to get yourself back out there and try dating again you need to let the process go at a slow pace to protect the feeling of your children. There are a few do’s and don’ts for you to consider so that you can protect not only the relationship that is yet to develop with the women you meet but also for your children. Always keep your dates away from your children at first, the reason for this being that whilst you are dating and you should be honest with your children that you are dating, but because you have no idea at this junction where the relationship might be going if anywhere, to keep the two separate. The reason for this is so that your children don’t get confused whilst you go on each new date. Once you are happy with just one person and you can see it going anywhere and the relationship becoming stable then tell your children about her. Once both your date and your children agree and they are both ready then and only then introduce them to each other.

The other reason for not introducing every date to your children is so that you are able to choose weather they are the best person for you and your children without any added pressure. While on a date you should tell your date immediately that you have children this way you are not misleading them in any way. Some people like children others do not, some are unable to have children so it is always best to fill them in on the full picture before things go to far and you are both let down if the woman chooses that she does not want to get involved into a relationship that has children in it. You should also tell your date weather the children’s mother is alive or not but without going too much into detail at this point. Keep it short and precise once you get to know each other better you can talk about it but not now.

Single dads sometimes find that they have problems trying to get back into dating and looking after their children at the same time. This is where the internet helps some people out but for others and for the people who do there are a lot of other ways of meeting women; Networking, Volunteering, Internet dating, Blind dates and always be careful of dating someone from work but don’t rule it out completely as some office relationships do work out without compromising your job…and make work a lot more fun as well!

Source: RingSurf

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