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Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Dating And Selective Love

Every single man and woman is after finding love and engaging in dating exercises. The fact is that each and every person the world over, from the Himalayas to the last street of Kano in Nigeria, everyone is after love and dating and forging a wholesome relationship that might just lead to the bliss of matrimony. It is the hope of every human being to have that person whom they can love with all their heart, that human who can also reciprocate the same. It is the urge and want of every human being. The problem is that it is not everybody whom our hearts should be checking out, but that individual whom we are attracted to, and likewise, depicts some form of attraction towards us.

Someone you would like to begin dating and know each other well. That is the source of all love and trust. Finding that person with whom there is a balance that exists between the two of you, something that makes you to just trust each other, that thing which makes you to just want to be in the hands of one another to the last day of your life. That is the bottom line. You must then apply mechanisms of going about finding that person who makes you feel like a king or queen, that person who will transform your life.

The best way towards finding and the cradle of dating such a person is applying the selective love, and also doing it selectively. You cannot avoid it as such, since your heart is always carrying out selective choosing of those things that will make you to be favorable to someone. It is the power of selective dating that you should try to have, through attracting the birds of a feather. It is tantamount to a magnet being attracted by iron and not steel. It means that each person attracts a specific group of people, people who wield certain qualities that you desire.

It is the work that many dating matchmakers are used to, where they look selectively for those qualities that make you favorable in the eyes of another person. It is the point that a person after selective choosing and dating must have in mind. You must be able to know what kind of people you attract in your aura. Some single men and women attract desperate house wives who cannot give them anything long lasting; they seem to find something in your character that their husband lacks.

Another click of people has the habit of attracting single mothers, women who have already given birth. This might be a sign that you exude confidence in the presence of people and that is the reason they want more of you. They want to begin dating you right away. There are types of females that attract the worst kind of males, from gangsters, drug addicts to people with aggressive behaviors. This might not be the kind of persons you should be seen dating, but they suggest something in selective dating, that there is a pigment of your character that is always attracting a certain type of humanity.

Source: Francis K. Githinji (ArticleDashboard.com)



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Monday, May 25, 2009

Dating On A Budget: How To Be Creative

The numbers keep rolling in and they are not good. Companies are doing some mass layoffs while others are just closing down altogether. You can see some examples of this by going to your local mall. Chances are you are going to see more than the usual empty spaces adjacent to some businesses that are barely hanging on.

This downturn is not only causing many companies to make hard choices but millions of individuals across the country and around the globe. Among those individuals are singles in the dating scene who through no fault of their own are finding the economics of dating a tough proposition to navigate. In the article "That Game We Play: Dating in a down economy", Lacey Storer of the St Joe News writes, "Some guys are getting more creative with their dates, or looking for cheaper options to the traditional dinner and a movie. Others are just avoiding dating altogether."


While that passage may focus on single men it applies equally to single women as well as the rest of us. Everyone is feeling the crunch.

But the last thing you want to do is take yourself out of the game altogether. Sure you can wait for things to improve before you get back into the dating scene but none of us knows when that will be. In the meantime isolating yourself from the social contact that comes with dating can have a not so good effect on your attitude and thought process.

So what's the solution? Date inexpensively but creatively. For instance.

1. Games and Puzzles

Monopoly anyone? How about a good game of Scrabble? Maybe during your travels you've come across one of those puzzles with five hundred or more pieces. Never really been into puzzles? To each their own but give it a shot anyway. Dating relationships are about give and take. And who knows? You may find being with someone enthusiastic about puzzles and games rubs off on you.

2. Music Days Got some favorite music?

Sure you do. So does the person you are dating. Invite them over occasionally and tell them to bring some of their favorite music. What they have may not be to your exact taste but again healthy dating is about equal give and take. Leave the TV off. With television you pretty much have to stop what you are doing periodically to focus on what's happening on the screen. Music on the other hand can keep the conversation flow going while the two of you dance and laugh the evening away.

3. Take the Walk

We are a nation of motorists and we love our cars. That's why it is good from time to time to get out and stretch the legs. It's not only healthy but it can strengthen the connection with your dating partner. Where do you go? Anywhere. Go to the park, check out a historical monument you have always been curious about. Walk to some busy area and get lost in the crowd, do some window shopping or find a nice cozy spot and watch the sunset.

No it is not going to be easy to make some of these adjustments. Many of us get into a dating ritual that we are quite comfortable with even if part of that ritual is the spending of money.

If you are in any kind of dating relationship one way or the other you are going to spend money. That's not going to change anytime soon. However by coupling it with being creative on a more regular basis you can extend those funds a lot further and add some new exciting dynamics to your dating relationship.


Source: Daryl (ArticleDashboard.com)


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Thursday, May 21, 2009

Dating And The Measures Of Love

The way you measure and weigh the kind of love you receive and give in your dating relationships is very important. It doesn't mean that you get yourself a measuring rod or a weighing machine and begin to put cupfuls of love in it. I wish it was possible, everybody wants to see the color of love, and I am no exception. I can't help it.

Love is such that if it had a color, then it would have been white, because it is the hue of tranquility, the balance of peace and the most silent and cool color. It is what I would expect to see in dating instances flowing in a swirling motion as two people who are in love meet. However then, love is not colored white, because love is very aggressive and it re-awakens the most aggressive thoughts the mind of man has ever had. It is the reason I think it must be red.

Red is the most popular color of those roses we love so much. So it must be the color of love. It is the most visible color when you check out people dating in a valentine evening, love must be red. Red because of the aggressive nature of the color red, it is the color of the blood that oozes out once an aggressive blow has been given. It is the color of lightning and a component of the rainbow, so it must be the color of love. Nevertheless then, dating has never been that aggressive, so the color of love might not be red. It must be yellow.

Yellow is a quiet color, cool and silent, and overtly hangs between the balances of grotesqueness and laziness. Yellow is lazy. It's the way people who are in love act, lazy and cool in each other's arms, to a point of creating a grotesque image of love. Yellow might be the color of love, but again, love is not grotesque, love might be orange.

It can be the color that you draw when you dissect love, it must be what you cry once your dating relationship has hit a snag and you cannot love anymore. Yes, love must be orange. It is that color that exists between the color red and yellow, which give it a tinge of silence and sporadic aggression. You cannot blame love, it might be orange, but again, dating is lively and fulfilling, and love is tender, so orange is not the color of love. Love must really be the color that represents life on earth, it must be green.

Love is lively, full of life and tends to grow. Love must be green. When you cut the vein of love, it must be able ooze the color green. When two people like each other, they depict a growing attraction that grows into an affair or relationship through dating processes, as they exude love at its best. Love must be green. Crops and vegetation grow to maximum height because of the color green. Love must be green, no doubt.


Source: Francis K. Githinji (ArticleDashboard.com)

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Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Dating And The Transformation Of Friendship

What happens when a female and a male meet is that they cannot help falling in love with each other and begin the art of dating as they begin to cement the relationship. It is the reason as to why God ordained the faculty of marriage to have man and woman forging a friendship of a specific nature. The transformation that occurs in a dating relationship is that man and woman meet as people who have nothing against each other, sometime having even met and there is no prior attraction.

It then follows that after the two people have met, they might have the first meeting pass without no change in the way they feel. Dating is all about that tinge of attraction that is floated and immediately, it's like your eyes have been opened and you can now see. It is what happens when two people who are in a relationship started. The first time they will ignore the situation, but the second time something will be reawakened inside their passionate levels and the man notices the beauty of her lips and the firmness of her breasts, and that her aura bewitches him to a point of realizing that there is something deeper that runs down inside his heart and joins with her spirit to make him realize that he has to meet again and make whole the dating relationship.

You cannot blame a woman who after seeing a man for a couple of times without conjuring anything in her mind suddenly realizes the kind face that the man has, the smile of welcome he gives her and the attention she receives aptly to convince her that it cannot be the end of the rail road but the beginning of a highway. She realizes that dating the man is a must since there is about him something that transcends his muscular chest and smile.


He has that air around him that makes you grace his world with an open heart which is the commencement of her dating relationship. The fact is that friendship and dating cannot be separated, it is their transformation that makes men merry and women full of grace. Friendships created out of love are the best one, even the person who is not a party to the relationship notices the aura and the kind of transformation that takes place among the two of you, to point of noticing that the relationships is not one after the misuse of their body, or a result of mistaking lust from pure human love.

Yet people have been ignoring the power of dating to a point of saying that man and woman have the potential to stay without dating relationships and even just be friends. This fails to take into account the fact the men and women were created to attract each other. If that is ignored, a situation will occur which will make the man and woman to compromise into a sexual endeavor that they were trying to dissuade from their minds every time they met.

Source: Francis K. Githinji (ArticleDashboard.com)



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Monday, May 18, 2009

Knowing When The Dating Is Heading Home

There is nothing like wasting your time dating and seeing a person whom at the end of the day you will be heartbroken and fruitless. There is nothing like rejection and an acute heartbreak. They have the inclination and the audacity to make you feel like running to the nearest shop and purchase a synthetic strap and hang yourself from the nearest Joshua tree. It is a feeling that makes men want to run naked and with super sonic speed to the end of the world and throw themselves to the bottomless abyss. Rejection makes you recoil yourself and curse the day mother earth accepted you into this world.

Dating smart allows you to have a good time as you reduce the risks of rejection without dishonor. Sometimes we are the ones who expose ourselves to the risks of heart break and rejection by following our infatuated minds rather than a logical choice of a dating partner. Men have the highest affinity to go for those individuals who fill their lust levels through what they perceive. They easily involve themselves in dating practices with women who have the kind of mountainous bosom they like or the kind of physique that make their speech turn into babble, mind to be filled with nothing as their legs fail to hold them straight.

These are women where from the onset of the dating spree you have an idea where it is headed. Not anywhere near a long-lasting kind of relationship but a sexual fling that dies down after the first dating instance. Knowing whether the dating exercise is heading home is very easy, mostly when you are dating a woman whose attraction is deeper than the physical attraction that many men cannot say no to. The ideal woman doesn’t have to be deficient of beauty in terms physical attractiveness either, but it should not be the only thing you look at when you are dating, it should just reinforce your decision to know her better and that is that.


If at all she is not responding, it is a high time that you made a point of leaving her alone and as you seek better female pasture. If you force yourself on the woman you are dating you will realize that you will not be heading anywhere, since the woman has already made her mind to leave you alone. You should follow suit and refrain from looking like an emotional wreck that doesn’t know the meaning of the word no, lacking in the emotional intelligence that makes one to retreat from an emotional disaster like a gentleman and not like a damn loser.

Dating is an art and the more you date the more you gain experience in ways of handling people as well as gaining in the priceless emotional intelligence that many people lack. You don’t have to be a genius to realize that you need to date smart and be yourself if at all you are after genuine dating experience that could lead to the highest point of dating; the bliss of matrimony.

Source: Francis K. Githinji (ArticleDashboard.com)



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Sunday, May 17, 2009

Dating Intensity

There are issues with dating, and every human is affected. No one can deny that. We cannot ignore the feeling of love and the desire of our hearts to begin to having that man or woman our hearts has been craving for grace our souls. It is as simple as that. You must have someone whom you are dating or seeing for you to enjoy the daily fruits of love that come with having a man or woman in your life. You cannot stay away from the powers of love and attraction, that is, if you are a human being.

We were made to have people in our lives, persons that me and you must have. Must! That is. No one can blame you begin dating the ugliest girl in the neighborhood, or the most foolish and dirty man in the village. People will understand, and for those who are knowledgeable in the art of love and endearment, they will never ask whether there was nobody else you saw. They know that you had all the options in the area to get the best looking, but it was your heart that made the choice.

This is the intensity of the dating scene. Where you don’t use human eyes to find the mate with whom you jumpstart the dating exercise and start having a good time. The intensity of dating is the one that determines what kind of tempo and arguably the strength of the relationship or union. You cannot blame a person who marries not the cutest girl, but one who has pimples and an almost flat chest. You can blame anybody who marries a man who is just dirty and rude, amidst being the laughing stock of the village. You cannot.

This is because you will find that these people have such unending and relentless love as to make their intensity of dating to be so heavy and fast that they cannot believe it is happening. They feel in love and have feelings of soaring in the air like eagles, as they shout to every nook and corner of the globe how much they are in love. They have such an attraction that they have no choice but disregard all kinds of comments and dangerous eyes. There could be other factors that are playing on their side.

The kind of sex that they are having might be another thing that makes them not to tire about having each other around. The intensity of their dating instances surprises many people, even themselves. They have realized the secret to love and long lasting attraction, having each other living every day for the other person. Making it in a marriage, dating or in any relationship is all about finding that place where you will find yourself the balance between attraction, love and romance, which at the end of the day will be determining the kind of intensity that a relationship has. Once you find those things you relationship will be the best.


Source: Francis K. Githinji (ArticleDashboard.com)

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Friday, May 15, 2009

Dating And Giving Yourself A Second Chance

There is something in dating that signifies new and rejuvenated life. In essence, dating is all about finding new love, or reawakening a love that has been dead for some time now. Love is all about giving and it will be unfair if we said that it’s all about receiving. Just like in everything else, it requires a clear knowledge of your own situation and why you need to be back in the love and dating realm. The fact is that you cannot stay away from the world of love and the faster you return the better. It’s such a fulfilling place that nourishes the soul of man and the fact is that you cannot delve in the world without some amount of love.

The reasons as to why you might return or you need to find love and begin the dating game are as immense as they come. It is something that you cannot ignore. Dating is about going back to the sea of love and trying out your best to come back with something. Once you have got something you will be the happiest of all men as you make your heart sing and grace itself with gladness.

You might be going back to the world of dating to find love after undergoing a rigorous divorce, which had tentatively made you to somehow forget how it all tasted and whether there is anything for you on the other side of love. The divorce might have left you scathed in terms of love and because the human heart is a delicate entity, you find that you are evading any chance that reminds you of intimacy. However, you must realize that you cannot stay away from the game of love, more so if you had already tasted love, and you only need to reawaken the feeling. At one time you will not be able to live without it and the sooner you return to the world of dating the better. You must begin to meet other singles who share your sentiments, people who share the same mind and are requiring some rejuvenation.

For a single parent, meeting other single parents is the best way of finding true and fast love, where the dating will undoubtedly be successful considering that you both are in many ways requirement the same thing. Single men and women who are also after love and rejuvenated dating must go through the same process that anybody after starting relationship does go through.

Many singles consider online dating and speed dating as one of the faster ways of starting the dating process. These are places where there are people who are inclined at finding love and are after meeting other singles just like themselves. On the other hand, anybody after finding intimacy and enjoying romance must know that they are meeting other human beings who have feelings like themselves and must be treated with respect and careful tenderness, otherwise, failing in the dating process is guaranteed.


Source: Francis K. Githinji (ArticleDashboard.com)


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